Tips for the Newlyweds

by T Jansen on May 20, 2009

It’s not hard to BE married.  It just takes a marriage license.  The real skill and accomplishment is to be HAPPILY married!  You have embarked on the most important journey of your life. Take it seriously now and you will find yourself waking up in the arms of this same person until the day you pass from this earth.

Here’s a list of common things to remember, but they are easily forgotten.  Maybe you should print it out and work on one specific item each week – forever!

  • Keep romance alive in your marriage.
  • Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff – it’s almost always small stuff!
  • Be patient.
  • Have fun together. 
  • Keep your sense of humor.
  • Be responsive to one another.
  • Listen.
  • Don’t give advise unless asked for it.  You are now each other’s sounding board!
  • Discuss family allegiances. Learn about one another’s childhood and family history.
  • Don’t try to please your in-laws all the time. Set boundaries early.
  • Make time for one another.
  • Share expectations on a regular basis.
  • Be realistic.
  • Talk about your goals.
  • Communicate your thoughts about the roles of a husband and a wife. Negotiate household chores.
  • Be respectful of one another. Don’t put your spouse down.
  • Do NOT try to change each other.
  • Discuss the myths of marriage.
  • Appreciate and understand your differences.
  • When you want something, say so.
  • Don’t expect your spouse to read your mind.
  • When necessary, forgive one another.
  • Saying SORRY :( goes a long way!

Best wishes for a long and fulfilling life together!

{ 13 comments… read them below or add one }

semaj December 14, 2009 at 5:24 pm

Great article thank you for sharing!

Jerri May 25, 2010 at 8:41 am

This was a great article. It will be very helpful. Thanks

Andi June 3, 2010 at 9:14 pm

FOUND OUT AFTER 13 YEARS THAT COMMON LAW NO LONGER PERTAINS TO ME AFTER THE IRS TOOK ALL MY MONEY FOR MY BOYFRIENDS SUPPORT FOR HIS FIRST WIFE AND CHILDREN, NOW PAID OFF IN FULL. In my opion we are already married when two people come together as one “Webster”. GETTING MARRIED FOR US WILL BE A PIECE OF CAKE expected to marry on 6/11/10 WE ALREADY USE ALL YOUR RULES, DON’T FORGET THAT ABOVE THE REST ONLY LOVE WILL PASS THE TEST.

jean October 2, 2010 at 5:53 am

REMEMBER NOT TO ARGUE.DON’T YELL OR RISE YOUR VOICE,TALK IT OUT,
REMEMBER THAT BOTH OF YOU ARE RIGHT.COME TO AN UNDERSTANDING THAT WILL MAKE BOTH OF YOU HAPPY.NEVER NEVER NEVER CALL EACH OTHER NAMES OR CUT YOUR MATE DOWN.LOVE EACH OTHER LIKE THERE IS NO TOMORROW.

Erica November 14, 2010 at 1:28 am

These tips will come in handy for us no doubt, but remember “GOD” in your life and relationship no matter what! Our wedding date is set for Jan. 8, 2011, and I’ve been waiting for it for the past eleven years….and two children later he’s finally asked! I plan to use this list, even the best of relationships needs a reminder list now and again.

marLic November 14, 2010 at 1:43 am

It sounds like you have a great plan AND yes, God is extremely important in all our relationships! Blessings for a wonderful wedding day!

marLic November 14, 2010 at 1:46 am

Erica, sounds like you have a wonderful plan for a successful marriage. Yes, God is extremely important in ALL our relationship. Blessings for a wonderful wedding day!

ROSELAURE December 5, 2010 at 3:19 am

I DON’T BELIEVED IN MARRIAGE ANYMORE. NINA AND LUCKNER TAKE THAT A WAY FROM ME. IT HARD WHEN YOU TRUST IN LOVE SOMEONE FOR SO LONG 11YRS THAT’S SO LONG.AND THAT PERSON BREAK YOUR HEART. I KNOW WILL PUNISH BOTH OF THEM. I WILL HAVE MY JUSTICE.

marLic December 5, 2010 at 3:51 am

So sorry for this to happen to you! It’s is very unfortunate. Just remember that every relationship has the potential to be lifelong. Don’t let this destroy your faith and hope in others.

Mary December 28, 2011 at 12:32 pm

What is the process for being divorced for about 5 to 6 years. Do I have to go through the whole remarriage process to get remarried.

marLic December 29, 2011 at 8:04 pm

IF you have been legally divorced and want to re-marry your ex-spouse, you must go through the same process as if the two of you had never been married before.

David May 3, 2012 at 8:32 am

why is sex not on the list, got to have a nice sexual loving relatyionship too

marLic May 4, 2012 at 8:49 pm

Well, that should require a post all to itself. Regular sex is an important part of a healthy marriage relationship. Hopefully newlyweds will have this part down pat for now!

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